This is a really well put together video on jazz as a metaphor for sex and using lessons from musical jam sessions as a way to inform how we approach sex. Anyone who’s been in my classes for very long knows that I use dance & sex as crossing metaphors a lot. So, to me, this video makes perfect sense for dance as well. You get better with practice (both solo and partnered), just because you danced once doesn’t mean you get to dance every time, and it’s not ok to force a move.
This ties into something I’ve been noticing in dance lately too that people seem to think social norms don’t apply just because someone agreed to dance with them. For instance, it’s generally considered not ok for me to berate a woman into doing something for me, yet I’ve come across plenty of leads who seem to think it’s ok to just crank up the power if a follow doesn’t do what they expected on the first attempt to lead a move. I think the more we view music, dance, and yes, sex, as a collaboration instead of a give and take, the more amazing things can happen.
And perhaps my favorite idea in here is that pleasure is a renewable resource. 🙂